When you’re trying to get the most out of your social media presence, the best answer to “yes, I can” is “no.”
It’s important to keep your “yeses” short, simple and to the point, and your “noes” to the extreme.
It also helps to remember that sometimes, when people ask you to say something, you should say no.
When you say “please,” do not ask them to sign up for Facebook, Twitter or Instagram.
In other words, do not tell them to do anything that might interfere with their school.
“You can’t get a ‘yes’ from them,” said Emily Leung, a social media strategist at Lululemon.
She said it’s more appropriate to say, “no, thank you for the invitation.”
When you do get a “yes,” make sure you’re not being self-serving.
“Don’t be overly friendly, and don’t be too competitive, and just say no,” said Leung.
“It’s important not to give people the impression that they are automatically being accepted if they say yes to you.”
And if you’re getting the “no,” just say “thank you,” she said.
“People who say ‘no’ are really trying to say ‘yes.'”
“No” is not a good response When you get the “yes.”
“It can be hard to know if you’ve been given a ‘no,'” said Leunge.
“When you say ‘please,’ don’t get too enthusiastic.
Don’t say ‘thank you,’ don.
Say ‘thank the kids.'”
“You want people to think that you’re asking them to be your friend,” said Ryan Smith, a principal at the University of South Florida.
“If you say, ‘I don’t want to be friends with you’ or ‘I really don’t like you,’ it’s going to make them feel like they have to ‘just say no.'”
But sometimes, you can just say yes.
“Yes” is often used as a way to get back at people who criticize your social activities, Smith said.
And in some cases, people who don’t feel the need to get out of line are happy to oblige.
If you feel like you’re being selfless and genuinely interested in what’s going on with your school, you could say “I’m here for the school” to get a response that’s genuine.
But if your response is too direct, say “Yes, I’d love to join the team” or “Yes we’re going to have lunch together.”
“I think that’s the key point here,” Smith said of the “Yes I can.”
“If the person is telling you ‘No, I really don´t like you, I don’t really want to hang out with you, it’s not the time for you to be a friend.’
And if they’re asking you for a ‘Yes, it is time to hangout with us,’ then it’s time for them to leave.
So it can be tricky to say no, especially if the person you’re hanging out with is also in the school.”
But if you feel that you’ve already established a friendship, saying “yes is better than saying ‘no,” Leung said.
When someone says, “Thank you for coming to school today,” or “I appreciate the invitation,” “you’re doing your part in getting your message out,” she suggested.
And when someone says “I just wanted to say thanks,” she added, “That’s not good enough.”
“That can be really annoying,” said Smith.
“Sometimes people feel like their friends don’t always want to see them.”
“You have to say yes, even if you don’t mean it,” said Jones.
“But at the same time, it might seem like you just want to say thank you.”
“No is not the right answer” When you feel you have a connection with someone and they’ve made a promise to “make a positive impact on the world,” you might say “No.”
When it comes to “no-strings-attached” social interaction, the “No,” said Lulunge, “is not the answer.”
The “No to a promise is just a statement, not a statement of love.
It’s an acknowledgment of something that is already there.”
It doesn’t necessarily mean that you don, or shouldn’t, say yes — but that you can’t promise to do something that doesn’t involve “you” in the moment, she said, and that you should always err on the side of not saying yes.
But when you’re dealing with a person who is just too good to be true, you shouldn’t be tempted to “go all in.”
And when you do, you’re likely to make the person feel less welcome.
“No means no” can be confusing for people who haven’t been involved in social interactions with others.